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‘Look at Us Now, Mother!’ Presents a Family Journey to Forgiveness

The filmmaker Gayle Kirschenbaum, whose documentary “Look At Us Now, Mother!” will have a one-week run on Long Island starting May 6, grew up thinking she had been born into the wrong family. And she wasn’t thrilled about growing up in Long Island’s Five Towns either. READ MORE...

Mommie Dearest and then some

Gayle Kirschenbaum has endured a lifetime of criticism from her mother, Mildred, a Boca Raton retiree whose favorite pastime is inflicting guilt. Her daughter's hair is too frizzy. Her love life is nonexistent. And her nose, Mildred wisecracks in the new documentary "Look at Us Now, Mother!" is like "the nose of the Indian on the buffalo-head nickel." READ MORE...

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Gayle Kirschenbaum: Filmmaker tells of life with the mother from hell

She’s the opposite of the stereotypical Jewish mother who cossets her offspring with cake, chicken soup and unconditional devotion. Mildred Kirschenbaum was more of a Jewish Mommie Dearest – at least to her daughter Gayle. “I lived in fear of what she would do to me,” confesses the award-winning film-maker who believes her mother’s behaviour left her with a lifelong fear of intimacy. READ MORE...

Gayle and Mildred Kirschenbaum - Power of Forgiveness

This week we look at the power of forgiveness with an emotional story from Emmy Award-winning filmmaker/TV producer Gayle Kirschenbaum and her mother Mildred. You can learn more about their path to forgiveness in the feature documentary, Look At Us Now, Mother! READ MORE...

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RIIFF: Look At Us Now, Mother!

The deeply touching documentary debuts at the Rhode Island International Film Festival. Let’s face it: we all have a bone to pick with our moms, though few can say they’ve confronted these issues with their mothers on camera and shown it across North America. Gayle Kirschenbaum, a TV-producer turned documentary filmmaker, is one of these glaring exceptions. READ MORE...

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R.I. Film Fest documentary: Can grown daughter forgive mother for wrongs of her past?

Her memories play out in 8mm-video footage her father shot in the 1950s. Gayle Kirschenbaum remembers her brother, at their mother's behest, putting her on top of the refrigerator. "I couldn't get down and they all laughed at me," the then 8-year-old Gayle wrote in her journal. She has other memories of growing up, of her mother criticizing her appearance, belittling her for having curly hair and a flat chest and pushing her to get a nose job, likening her profile to that on the Buffalo nickel. READ MORE...

Film on mother-daughter relationship set for Woods Hole

To paraphrase Mark Twain, every daughter complains about her relationship with her mother, but no one ever does anything about it. No one except Gayle Kirschenbaum, that is. Kirschenbaum made a documentary, Look at Us Now, Mother!, which will be screened at Docaviv, the Tel Aviv International Documentary Festival, which will take place on May 7-16 at the Tel Aviv Cinematheque. READ MORE...

Two Jewish women take center stage in new documentaries

Suburban mother, vaudeville star have a lot to say. Strong Jewish women take center stage in two new documentaries. Superficially it would be easy to compare Mildred Kirschenbaum and Sophie Tucker to forces of nature, dominating their environments and commanding attention. Yet both films, in different ways, let us see the far more interesting and complex women behind those initial impressions. READ MORE...

Filmmaker Gayle Kirschenbaum proves that motherdaughter relationships can shift course, even late in life.

Get yourself a nose job. Straighten your hair. Find yourself a nice Jewish boy, for God’s sake, and get married already. READ MORE...

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Making Peace With Her Past

To paraphrase Mark Twain, every daughter complains about her relationship with her mother, but no one ever does anything about it. No one except Gayle Kirschenbaum, that is. Kirschenbaum made a documentary, Look at Us Now, Mother!, which will be screened at Docaviv, the Tel Aviv International Documentary Festival, which will take place on May 7-16 at the Tel Aviv Cinematheque. READ MORE...

The Mother of All Feuds

Emmy Award Winner's Documentary Reveals Personal Journey From Foes to Friendship: “Almost everyone at the Boca Pointe clubhouse knows Mildred Kirschenbaum. After all, aging Jewish widows flock to these parts. Boca Pointe is immense and filled with single professionals, busy families and transplanted northerners; with many of its older residents drawn together by Mahjong and matzo ball soup. But Mildred Kirschenbaum, she's a tad different. READ MORE...

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It's The Nose, Stupid

“I have good news and I have bad news for me,” Emmy award winning filmmaker/TV producer Gayle Kirschenbaum told Hollywood on the Potomac regarding her earliest remembrances of her childhood. READ MORE...

Finally Making Peace With Mommie Dearest

“Gayle Kirschenbaum found a unique way to excavate her mother's past to find a way to forgive, if not forget, years of abusiveness."

Mother Pushes Nose Job, Daughter Gets Revenge On Film

“It’s almost like an episode of the “Jerry Springer’’ show: A mom nags her daughter for years to get a nose job, and the daughter takes revenge by making a film about it." READ MORE...

Here's the Project of the Week Winner: "My Nose"

Thanks to your votes, the mother-daughter documentary "My Nose" won last week's Project of the Week contest. Congratulations to director Gayle Kirschenbaum. As a prize, the filmmaker will receive a digital distribution consultation from SnagFilms and is now officially a candidate for Project of the Month. READ MORE...

Rhinoplasty And Body Image

Stories about mother-daughter relationships told from a woman's point of view are cultural gems. Following the success of her documentary short called "My Nose," American filmmaker Gayle Kirschenbaum is cutting a new movie that continues the testimony about her mother's "relentless quest" to persuade her to have a nose-job: "My Nose: The Bigger Version." READ MORE...

What they're saying about LOOK AT US NOW, MOTHER!


"It was absolutely brilliant. What has always spoken to me the most about the project is the willingness of Gayle and her mother to be so very transparent, and the message of forgiveness and perseverance."

Dr. Pamela Thompson,
Therapist and Author of “Surviving Mama”


Some years ago, I made a short funny film called MY NOSE about my mother’s relentless campaign to get me to have a nose job. The reaction was overwhelming from audiences and the media, “Dazzling self-confidence.” Washington Post “Hilarious romp” Jewish Week “A big little movie” Thrive .

Audiences wanted to know how I handled my highly critical mother. After screenings audience members shared their stories. Unexpectedly, I found myself teaching people how I did it by using my “Seven Healing Tools” on how to transform abusive relationships. I soon realized, as a filmmaker who has a huge archive of footage and funny and smart mother who was agreeable, that it was my mission to tell my whole story. That’s why I made this deeply personal feature documentary, LOOK AT US NOW, MOTHER!

As I launch this film into the world, my mission is to help others. And together with an incredible team, we will build a movement to do that and welcome your support and participation. Please feel free to email us if you want to get involved.

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